Let’s do it. Let’s talk names.
As we’re not finding out the sex of our baby, let’s talk both boys and girls names, shall we? I’d love to hear any crackers you’ve got up your sleeves – if you are done having children and would like to share, or if you are one of those that doesn’t mind sharing and would gladly shout names from the rooftops.
We’re of the keeping it to ourselves variety, we aren’t talking names with anyone, despite really wanting to. The idea of the name being a special surprise (just like the gender) on our baby’s birthday is a bigger incentive to me than the lure of discussing potential names with people.
But…I will say that we like traditional names, but not boring. Classic, but not popular. Pretty, but not too soft for girls. Timeless for boys, a man’s name as well as a boy’s name. Here are some which have not made the cut, due to one of us (ok, just Matt)
not liking them adamantly refusing to use such names…
Bridget (actually vetoed by me! It’s my middle name. Ick.)
Patrick (not so much vetoed, more that we realised we couldn’t have Matt and Pat!)
There are just so many nice names out there, but none seem to be sitting as ‘the one’. I know everyone talks about the lightning bolt moment, when we will just ‘know’ – but we also sort of don’t want to know. We don’t want to have it narrowed to just one boys name, one girls name. And that’s it. That’s what our son will be called. Or that’s what our daughter will be called. I think we would like it narrowed to 2 or 3 and then perhaps the lightning bolt moment will come when we meet our son/daughter. Before we fell pregnant I was all about the names, I would dream of a little dark haired girl named so-and-so, or a little blonde farmer boy named so-and-so, it was all a very neat little package. Now it’s a very real big, looming package.
We suggest loads, we nod and agree, ‘yes that’s a lovely name’, we say. But is it our child’s name? Can I imagine nursing a sweet smelling newborn of that name, scolding a toddler of that name, packing school lunches of a child of that name, worrying about a teenager of that name, watching a person – a real-life growing human – do life with that name? Could a person with that name be a doctor, an artist, the prime minister, a circus performer, a plumber, a ballerina, a fireman, an engineer? In case you can’t tell, I feel the pressure of the name – what if you only have one daughter? One son? What if this is your ONLY CHANCE?! You don’t want to stuff this up. Perhaps I need to take a step back…
So tell me, if you had a baby a’cooking what names would be bouncing around your brain? Keep in mind that these are our nieces and nephews names: Chloe, Laura, Scarlett, Charlotte, Ethan, Ava, Violet and Madeleine. Yes we have a Scarlett and a Charlotte. No they’re not sisters.